This is incredible. You see that I delete my post and respond anyway. LMAO!
The fact is that your posts took something good away from me. Call it blameshifting if you want to. It's also a fact that my anger over it is my problem and up to me to deal with.
But in the process of recounting what I've done wrong and telling me what I have to do, did you bother to ask yourself why I would have posted if I wasn't trying to make things better? Why would I do that if I didn't see hope for something better?
Did you not see that I gave my W credit for significant changes re: sex? I even credited her for good intentions even when we missed in our communication and took responsibility for hurting her in what I've said.
Did you examine my posts for the "holdover hurts" you claim I have? There aren't any there.
Did you see anything in those posts that were negative or disparaging about my W? None of those present either.
Did you not see that I was trying to find a realistic and fair approach toward her? Or did you see these things and discount them because you know better? The advice about me "not stepping on her seed sprouts because the aren't sunflowers" might have worked for you there, too.
I accept that your intention was to give me hope. If only intentions were what counted. I certainly wouldn't have made the mistakes I have with my W, and the same would probably be true for her.
Unfortunately, your posts communicated something damaging to me. But, as you said, I'm just blameshifting.
Feel free to continue correcting me. I won't get in your way by responding further.
