Ok...so what you are wanting IS something NG has never been in your R. That's what I was thinking, and that's why I suggested earlier, you may have to alter your perception of what "a good sex life" is in your R. It seems to me that NG is trying to possibly step out of her comfort zone sexually.....but the fact that you will never be able to crawl into her brain and know how she truly thinks about you sexually is a cheeseless tunnel.
IMPO Barn....you need to start coming to grips with what is reality in your R. Start appreciating what NG is trying to do to meet your needs to show you she loves you and does want you. I feel that you can only begin to move out of the place you are in once you've managed to do that....especially since what you are wanting was never in this R to begin with. I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but that is how I see it.
With acceptance can come a whole new level of trust (that's what I'm experiencing in my R right now), with that trust can come changes you'd never expect.
