This is a question I have been long debating with my wife. I suppose you read my thread on feminism and how women can affect the man’s sense of intimacy. To me, there is an issue of walking a very fine line. I believe needing some affirmation from your spouse can be healthy, helping to reaffirm bonds, maintain intimacy and the like. Not enough affirmation and the spouse can feel neglected. Too much and the spouse can become a little lazy, take things for granted, maybe even become a little codependent. The balance is in finding the right amount that allows both spouses to gain, from the giving as well as from the receiving.
So what I am saying is that your statement should not just address your simple needs (like one of the 5 LLs, at some superficial level) but provide an opening into your soul, that allows her to help heal a wound, a missing part of you, in a way that no one else can do as completely as her, and not because you cannot do it yourself, but simply because you surrender this part of you to her and you want her to be an integral part of you. Ask he to do something for you that can be a choice for the both of you and not something you hang onto out of neediness. Find something within you that open up to receiving, something that will mean as much to her to give as it does for you to receive.
Unfortunately I have no clue exactly what that might be, but I hope you do!
