Welcome back. Ok...when she does do something for you and you feel like perhaps she's doing it because you told her to and not because she wants to ..... does she tell you that she's doing it because she wants to?
If so, well Barn...I think you need to start learning to accept that what she says is true. If (and I don't know that NG has said this) she tells you she wants to do xyz, even though in the past you've TOLD her that's what you need/want....you need to learn to accept that she really does want to do it for you.
Now if your trying to deal with that PITA thing of....but I want her to "desire" these things....or have an emotional prompting to do these things....you need to remember, she does these things because she loves you. People constantly battle with wanting someone else to feel the way they feel...well, the reality is you will never really know that they feel the same way you feel about something. They can tell you they do, but would you believe them....really? Because, how would you truly know?
