My my, gone for a couple of hours and I come back to this on my thread.
Marvel, firt off, why are you on this BB? As I have read thru your posts, you seem to offer little contructive criticism. Mostly crude, imappropriate comments. In case you didn't know, this is a kind, solution-oriented BB. If you're looking for a laugh, you won't get one here.
Second, I really don't feel that I need to justify my actions with my H to you.
GEL, thanks for sticking up for me...no need to waste justification on this guy. Is there a way to get this guy tossed out of here?
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
Again...I apologize. I will not post in this thread anymore. I do however have one more question to ask. If you don't want to hear other people's opinions (good or bad) why post it up on a forum. My wife left me over 3 years ago, and I didn't stop hurting until people began being honest with me. Only then was I able to accept that I had responsibilities to own up to as well.
Thank you...for not attacking me. I felt like I was in a forum with my ex-wife for a minute. That's a good idea..I will try to explain myself, perhaps it will explain why I come off sounding the way I do.
Don't forget Annie Jump Cannon, who was instrumental in forming our current understanding of stars. She was hired along with a number of other women to just be sorters of data (they called them "computers"). But her interest in the subject led to her see patterns in the data and revolutionize our understanding.
Marvel, GEL, DN, and others
I think everyone has gotten off on the wrong foot. Maybe we can just all take a deep breath, forget what was said, and start over. I think CeMar's advice is good Marvel, perhaps the best thing to do would be to start your own thread, that way people have a framework by which they can better understand your comments. We have a wide variety of viewpoints here. Someone who reads Stig or BF for the first time would probably completely misunderstand their comments because of the unusual tone. Maybe the same has happened here.
Cheers, Chrome
p.s. Darnit, I'm still way behind. Gonna catch up today ... I promise
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Ok Marv, since you have stated that you are here to offer genuine advice, I will reply to your post.
Quote: Some men do not appreciate the though of having a BJ!!!!
H and I have always engaged in oral and have injoyed it. There is nothing that makes me think that he doesn't like it.
Quote: You should try just holding your husband,
I do.
Quote: maybe he would respond better if you didn't act like such a hussy.
Asking my H if I can pleasure him is acting like a hussy? I don't feel that I have acted like or act like a "hussy". Asking your SO to ML or engage in a physical sexual act is normal. On another note, my H has asked me to be more forward about our SL, that's why I approached him about it. Turns out he wants me to be more forward about telling him what I want, not more forward about giving to him. Crazy I know, but we all have our hang ups, right?
You have said that you are a "sheltered momma's boy". Where you raised by a single mother? What did she teach you about sex and marriage? Did she tell you that if a woman wants sex, she's bad/dirty?
nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
Do you actually want me to respond? Or was this rhetorical. I already said I wouldn't respond to this thread anymore, and I'm a man of my word. But I'm also southern and southern men don't leave a lady in distress.
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
Quote: Did she tell you that if a woman wants sex, she's bad/dirty?
She didn't have to. Listen...I don't want to get into this because it is obvious that I have different sexual morals then some people here. I have already been called a troll for having different opinions, so again, I wish you all the best with your husband. Ignore anything I've posted above.
I think we have all agreed that we got off on the wrong foot. I have not called you a troll, and I think that other people here would recind their calling you that. (BTW, you weren't being called a troll because you have different opinions, it's becuase people thought you were just here to make trouble).
I have openly invited you to reply to the posts. If you are not comfortable sharing your story with us that's one thing, but talking in cryptic half answers is not the way to get help here. If you want help you'll need to give a little more information. We're not here to judge, and it is helpful to understand where you are coming from. Perhaps you want to expand on this on your own thread?
Regards, Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
