It sounds like we are in similar situations although I think my H's porn use is more frequent then yours. I've mostly stopped initiating sex for the past year because I wanted to take the pressure off of him and also it hurts to be rejected. I wish I could say it's helped the situation but the frequency is even less now.
I've also noticed that the emotional connection is not the same as it once was when we ML. H rarely says "ILY" when we ML and he won't look at my face. That is a big change from where we were a year ago. If I say ILY he will respond back ILY too but never says it first. He's very distant and the last few times we ML he had ED issues. I'm sure this is all tied in to his porn use which has become a daily habit.
And that's what I miss most of all is the EC. And he knows this because I have told him over the past few years yet nothing changes.
I'm not sure if my H feels guilty or ashamed about it because he doesn't even bother to delete the computer's history anymore and he knows that I check it from time to time. In some ways it's more insulting that he doesn't hide it anymore knowing how I feel hurt by his rejection and replacement of our sex life by his porn use.
I don't know if this is helping you at all but I wanted you to know that someone else out there was facing a similar problem.
