FWIW, I've heard those exact same things from my H in the past....if he wanted it he'd come get me. Chances are though that he knows how much it would hurt you to know he's viewing that stuff regularly...and not coming to you, like my H....it's his own dirty little secret that he's afraid to let out.
You know I remember when I first joined this board a few years ago I read time and time again that sometimes it takes drastic measures to make changes happen. Well, I didn't walk out, didn't file for D or separation.....BUT I did blow the lid on his hidden alter ego & secret wide open, in a big way! It was like, for us anyway, confronting him with actual printed out evidence of what he'd been doing made it to where he couldn't hide it from me anymore.....it was all too obvious I knew Nicky. His secret wasn't a secret anymore, and it was (I do believe this too) the one thing he'd been hiding from me pretty fiercely.....because I think he knew how damaging it would be if I found out. My bringing it out in the open and then sticking around has kind of made that issue well......evaporate and something better has taken it's place.
Personally, I feel....if your gut tells you he's viewing it more than he says, find out if that's the truth....don't expect him to tell you the truth. If he's hiding something from you, chances are he will not tell you the truth. If he's viewing it and hiding it, there's a problem.
