RE OT
It is difficult if for no other reason that when a man is about to O he changes things, and changing things often causes a woman to at least temporarily stop progressing toward O.
Good information to post OT.

I realized my O process altered her O process but I usually thought it made both of our O processes/feelings heighten. I am seeing where it may have had the opposite effect.

About the M not O'ing at about the same time as the FM, well when BB was about to have an O, I got so excited it was difficult to restrain my O unless I was working for a while and actually developed side cramps prior to BB's O.

I thought I experienced BB having stronger O's when I O'ed about the same time. Maybe I/we did, maybe I just thought we did, because my senses were being flooded with so many good feelings.

RE Lil
simultaneous O about four times in my whole life. It's "O"-kay , but not the be-all and end-all. Not something I work toward or care too much about. If anything, separate O's enable you to really get into your partner's in a way that you can't if you are O-ing at the same time.
More good information Lil. I used to think O'ing at the same time was the preferred goal. The supposed, 120% way to have sex, I can now see, might actually lead to less total enjoyment. I can understand the value in savoring the separate experiences.

Ditto on the Astroglide. KY Warming is sticky and seems to dry out fast to me. I feel BB's discomfort when things are tight/not lubed enough/uncomfortable and that takes away from the overall feeling of togetherness/pleasure.


RE Stigmata
Mea apologia for ba$tardizing your astute list, Lou
Stigmata, no offence taken or need for a Mea apologia. I guess I was just explaining something that I might have included in my origional or pervious post.

Like I have said before, sometimes I don't write everything I think or feel as well as I would like to or wish I could explain some things. It's that old feeling many people have, s/he wrote it better than I did, or “That is exactly what I really was thinking but did not explain it that well."

Now, OT, you may scratch your head and wonder how the he!! I managed to zip through your painted tunnel...Meep-Meep!
Your painted tunnel and meep meep post, is one example of your ability to make a message come alive. Keep posting.

RE LFL
Lil, and now LFL, say O'ing at the same time is rare. Geez, other women have to tell me what I thought was happening was a rarity.

back in my college days when I thought I could get away with anything (well, you usually can with college guys, duh)
Well LFL, If I am/was a college boy, I will admit it. It was fun anyway.

Thanks for learning me the right way ladies. grammatical mistake intended) Corrected to; Thank you and others for informing me of the possibilities.

Maybe that 400/500? level " Deviant Sexual Behaviors "class in college I attended should have covered faking?

Lou