Quote: You have the ability to empathize which is very admirable. You are on the right track for sure.
That's a very kind thing to say. Thanks!
Quote: hmmm..I have to agree with the Lil and OT on this one and say that may be a red flag for faking.
Well. Hit me with a crowbar and call me stupid. haha. I'm not too proud to admit that if I've been duped, I've been REAL duped. Who was it that mentioned Wile E Coyote and the Roadrunner earlier? How about this: Coyote runs off cliff, hangs in midair forever like cartoons do, looks down at the ground far below, turns into a lollipop, aka SUCKER.
Well. I guess that really demonstrates how easy it is. But when I reread my post, I recognize that i may have exaggerated a bit. I dunno. I am pretty darn sure it HAS happened, but maybe you are all right--she wasn't getting what she wanted, but wanted to please none the same, so faked it.
How do you approach her about this? When? I've spoken to her about admitted faking during our year apart on our 'conjugal visits', but spoke on the assumption that that wasn't a problem before. I didn't even open the door for her to correct that if it was not the case. Is it possible to even bring it up now without her saying, "Seriously. Seriously?" read: "this topic again?" (Note subtle reference again to Grey's Anatomy...you rock, LfL!!)
Well. The good news is that I've finally learned her love language and have been speaking it faithfully. QT baby! And showering her with attention. This morning before leaving for work, she said: "I love it when you pamper me so much..." With a lot of hard work and a good dose of prayer, I think I can make these changes stick and maybe she won't feel the need to fake and will be more open about that. But you are all right--it's a big roadblock if it's there!!!
