Her year away changed her personality a bit as she was forced to become hyperindependent, which has led her to be more forthright about things. Sounds like me. But I was forced into that position when H left for almost a year. Either way, it will make people rethink just about everything in their life. Time is a wasten. Might as well be forthright. Nothing left to lose. Again, I'm happy to hear things are on the right track in your M. Your response to HappyGiant(?) was very insightful. I think the extreme M problems you have been experiencing make it easier for you to see the other person's side of the story. For instance, Mrs HappyGiant. Is she happy with the way the SL is going? Is this what she wants? No! You have the ability to empathize which is very admirable. You are on the right track for sure. I'm on the larger end of the scale and sex for her can be painful, particularly if lubrication is an issue. Okay okay, I know, it could be that her Vajayjay (Any Grey's Anatomy fans out there? I still laugh when I hear that word) is built a tad small too. Who knows. First off, I LOVE Grey's Anatomy! Need to watch that every Sunday. I'm dumping Desperate Housewives (getting bored with it) in favor of The Sopranos which started again this week. Finally. Ok, too much off-topic convo as usual. Don't get me started I would say that before she left for the year, we would O-sync over half the time hmmm..I have to agree with the Lil and OT on this one and say that may be a red flag for faking. Personally, I have had that happen...less than 3 times...ever. But I also don't O as easily with the man inside me, and always need clitoral stimulation at the same time. Maybe GEL could chime in here since she O's only vaginally. Can you reach O at the same time as your H, GEL? (if you don't mind sharing). That is Very hard to do. And personally, I will say that I am also guilty of faking that move in the past myself Guys seem to like that one, so what the heck, might as well give them the ultimate grand finale That was back in my college days when I thought I could get away with anything (well, you usually can with college guys, duh) So just keep it in mind Mr_MD. You guys are young. Still lots to learn and f-up