Thanks for using my personal thoughts about O's in your posts. I thought I would just stick my neck out, if I made some foolish or miss statement, that's OK, and give my and maybe some other male’s POV's My ideas were all given in a from a good intentions position.
In LFL's case about a choice between two different women, one that had O's, and one that did not have O‘s or very few, maybe should have included the statement "with other things being equal or almost equal", I think LFL is right. The guy would see the relationship that included O's as more compatible. But R and people are not really that simple IRL. Honesty is very important. So much of a R is based on trust.
Stigmata's replies contained more faking elements/what if’s than I intended for my post to convey. When I post, I usually am thinking about a couple that have some problems but are basically honest and working toward a solution that is equitable for both, considering the circumstances.
My case related to faking. Not an issue as there has been no signs of BB fakinf or O'ing since 1981. I read all I could (not much individual information about this subject until the inter-net about two years ago. This forum has been the most informative. Thanks all for being so open.
I did learn to be OK with the idea that some women like sex but don't need to have O's and transferred those thoughts to my situation. I realized it was wrong for me to want BB to have an O when she did not want one or did not want to put in the time or effort to have one.
I have kind of gotten use to the idea that having sex with a spouse when they would rather not participate, but they do it as a gift to their SO. Not what I want, but I do appreciate the effort.
