Quote: I think it's important for "we sensitive types" to learn to grasp the notion that men and women are satisfied differently. Men are satisfied sexually at the completion of the destination (the "O"), Women are satisfied sexually with the journey--at least that's how I've learned to view it. If the journey was rewarding in making her feel alive, sexy, and emotionally connected, then reaching that "O" is not so important, but just becomes that added bonus at the end of achieved. ... But I think what has been said is correct, it cannot be our responsibility.
Your whole post is sensitive and sweet-- but the sentiment expressed in first part of the paragraph I quoted is not the way I see things.
In my own case, and I'll not generalize to the female population at large, there are times when I want an O and times when I don't want to bring the mental focus to bear. It's really not a case (in my case) that if the "journey makes me feel alive and sexy, the O is an extra added bonus."
No... in my case, if the journey makes me feel alive and sexy then I REALLY want an O. But again, it is not his responsibility to make me have an orgasm. He can stimulate me manually or orally (IC alone with no manual will NOT do it for me), but I can "take over" (manually, of course... brings to mind a joke about a dog... but I digress) and get myself off with him holding me. And I have to say, for all the complaining that I do about my bf, when we do find ourselves in this scenario, it doesn't seem to matter to either one of us WHO is actually physically touching my clit. He is right there with me, egging me on, sighing, moaning, encouraging me, and when it happens, he is so sweet. If a woman can do this, she NEVER has to settle for doing without an O when she wants one.
Like I said, there are times when I just don't want to make the effort.
But the LM is by no means done just because he has come-- if I want an O, then by golly, we or I take care of it. Sometimes he may even doze off while I finish myself off, but he wakes when I cross the finish line. On those occasions when I want an orgasm, then I need to have one, or I will feel physically VERY cranky. Especially if I've gotten close and then it faded. Even if he loses patience, I have PLENTY of patience.
Anyway, you sounded like you were saying that if the guy can't give her an O then she's still okay because the journey was the more important part. I wanted to say that I don't subscribe to that view for myself. Hope I said that without muddying the waters...
