RE: BF Lou, I had to put so much time (pre and once marriage) into earning money......BF, I understand this feeling completely. It is very important to be a good provider. I understand this feeling completely.
BF, I have part of a reply, why, and part of the solution but don't want to hi-jack this thread so will post on my thread. I am also not finished working through some thoughts/things so don't have a complete post right now. I am re-reading my reply and filtering it through some of the concepts in some books I read previously and am reading now.
One book eludes to how people developed thought patterns, refered to as brain wiring or cross wiring in some cases, and another book concept is "toxic shame" in which I use the concept and apply it to "toxic work habits," ( which I add toxic ego gratification IE what makes me feel good/worthwhile) or why I felt so compelled to work.
I did not want you to feel or think I am too busy to respond or feel I am dodging your previous post to me.
