Quote: Why dont they just tell us, I like this and this and that like we do?
It's easy to tell a guy that you like what he's doing. That usually goes over well, except for some guys who take that to mean "this is a sure-fire thing and I'll just do it this way and this way only forever."
When you suggest different things, you may get a variety of responses...
There's the huffy "I don't like being told what to do" response.
There's the "who taught you THAT?" (Real example, not hypothetical.) The least inflammatory response to that is "I read it in a book" or "saw it in a movie."
There's the question repeated at one-minute intervals "are you getting close YET?"
There's the response to a specific request "I can't physically do that." I once (and I do mean ONCE) asked a guy to put his fingers inside me while he was eating me and he told me that it was physically impossible, that his hand would NOT fit there while his mouth was there. I was so tempted to say (but didn't) "None of my previous six lovers had any problem with that, and one of them was your FATHER'S age!"
This kind of reaction (and others) have discouraged me from gently saying what I like. I still do, but it is discouraging.
My experience has been that most of the men I've been with (with the notable exception of one) are intimidated by a woman who knows her body and knows what she likes. I'm only generalizing to the men I've known, so don't take this as an indictment of the male population. Most of them were intimidated by my experience and by my strong interest in sex.
Not all men are the secure, adventurous, enthusiastic, sensitive guys that we find on this board... who just want to know what gives their women pleasure so they can DO it.
