Quote: propelled forward by a fear of dependence rather than independence. I had never thought of those two things as different, but they are, b/c independence is a product of choice and slef-reliance.
Very thought provoking. They are very differrent things, as a matter of fact I think they are opposites Fear of dependence is a weakness independence is a strength.
Well so much for me trying to do things without her. I tried this weekend but she wants to go everywhere with me. Not a bad thing. We just stopped in here at home for a moment and we're off again.
I think she may be fearful of some aspects of femininity. But not all. She loves to throw on high heels and a sexy dress. Loves how powerful she feels. Likes to feel taller.
She's a head turner in a black dress and high heels. She also loves that other women hate her for her body. She's in spectacular shape.
She likes to be a powerful woman. Although early on in our troubles I would say that she was losing herself in the relationship. Being next to a powerful man was not a good thing. I think that now that has changed and she wants to be a powerful woman next to a powerful man. She loves it when I am authorative towards others and possibly towards her at times.
I'm pretty laid back but I am finding that sometimes it is far easier to just say what I mean and tell people what I expect of them. When I do handle situations that need to be handled with firmness. She goes out and brags about it. Loves to tell other women.
She enjoys her day at the hair dresser. She comes back all made up. She loves looking great. Part of it is she just doesn't really know how to put on makeup and she's not the type to enjoy going to those girlie make up parties. It's just not her.
I told her she should experiment with it tonight. Maybe she will. She does seem a little curious.
Not only is it not like her to buy makeup. But it's really not like her to buy something from a TV commercial. She's really very thrifty. Her family grew up very poor and she's picked up her mother's thriftiness. Although we've been spending a fortune on going out to dinner lately. Something we never used to do. Plus it's the investment in the relationship that I see it as.
