Hello, and nice to meet you. Just caught up with your thread. I think I am in a similar place as you are. You asked BJ, who I would love insight from BTW, to give you links to similar threads so I figured you may be able to get something from mine. I hope so anyway.
Second to last thread (this one has links to the previous should you want the LONG version) Saga part 8
The similarities are that both our W's seem to be committed to our M's again and yet there is still a lack of intimacy. The backgrounds may be different but I think we are in the same place now. I will keep reading up on you and post when appropriate. Good luck!