I would definetely agree. You two are very much alike. She wants to be independent and has a strong pull to be her own person. Yet she also just brags all the time about me. She has a lot of pride in her voice when she says "my husband". I am hoping that she is realizing that the two are not exclusive of each other.
She wants to send me on a boys night out this weekend and she is going to take the dog up to "the house". I am very hopeful that she is going up to gather her things and bring them down. I do know it was only available until spring anyway. She hasn't been there in over two months.
I'm thinking I should give her a lot of space at this point. I know one of the issues is she is just plain stubborn and doesn't want to be the one to give in.
It must be confusing for her. It is for me. Like I've said many times we are truly just peas in a pod. Even if we're apart for a few hours we both come back and tell each other how those two hours went. Did it today.
I guess the fact that we are so close makes it even harder to become individuals and not get lost in the R. But we have both grown tremendously as individuals. I'm sure this is necesssary because of how close we really are.
Today an extremely attractive woman smiled and said hello to me on the street. She did a double take on the way by. Left me feeling pretty good about myself. Left me truly feeling I'd be just fine no matter what. I think that was really a first that that feeling was so strong.
I feel very good about our marriage right now, but I've also found that it is extremely helpful to feel that I'd be fine without it. Xue
