Hey BJ,

I certainly will. You think so? Hmmm. Need to step out of the box anyway.

I was thinking about you this morning. I was thinking lately how well some of the stuff I learned in Mars/Venus has worked for me (db too of course) Early on in our marriage my w had me convinced she didn't like girl stuff. Didn't like me to be romantic.Didn't like other women. yada yada yada. She came across much like a guy and wanted too. So I treated her like one. Eventually that backfired on me.

Although seemingly this made life simple for me, but it was also confusing.

You are much like my wife. Pretty and girlie looking but likes guy stuff.

I wonder how this came into play in your R. I have no idea, just a thought I had.

I think had my w occassionally shown me she liked to be treated like a girl and dropped the front I would have caught on.

anyway, just thinking. Things are going well here. Back to kisses again.

She had a long talk with her mother lately and another with her brother who got married right when we did and is going through divorce. Don't know what influence they had.

I think the holistic health practitioner bringing up the stress levels may have had an influence also.

So many uncontrollable variables too. Glad these are mostly positive now. Reading CYL really makes me realize the damage that C did. A whole lot.

I have a student who has problems who goes to that C's ex. I wonder if the T is actually hurting. I'm going to spend some time with him soon and see how I can help.

Xue


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