Hey Xue variables are dependent and independent so your research at the moment has a few think of it like a hospital drip the drip is the independent variable (IV or A) and the patient is the dependent variable (DV or B) the DV (outcome or B) is affected by the IV (input or A) what you do with A affects B (how you manipulate the A affects the B - or how you manipulate the A's affects the B) are you with me so far
at the moment you can't tell if your A's not wearing ring (A1) not walking in and kissing her (A2) not reacting when she kisses you (A3) going out alone (A4)
you can't tell if they are all having an effect or if one is stronger than the other ie does not wearing you ring have a bigger effect on her than all the other three put together
what you have to do now is knock one out at a time and then maybe later re-introduce one at a time again
detachment this is the what is happening with you you are acting detached that variable is made up of A1 + A2 + A3 + A4
now this is getting to be true experimental research as you take one away at a time they could all equally have the same effect and only doing one could have the same effect you are seeing or it could be only one of the things you are doing is having an effect and the others are doing nothing
second part no reason why she can't be your 'good girl wife' in public and your 'mistress' in private but she will have to work out how to make that happen
She is giving you lots of clues - talking about the other patrons in the restaurant and observing there behaviour and relating it back to the behaviours between the two of you
experiment a little more with this there are lots of different things you could do put everything back to how it was then put one variable into play for a week (with the wedding ring I would leave it near the sink so it looks like you took it off to wash or something and forgot to put it back on) maybe she will pick it up and give it to you?
try each variable for at least for a week and try them seperately you can then start mixing them together
I guess the idea now is to make it appear that just maybe someone may try and pinch you away so she begins to think hang on he won't go - or will he is this relationship what he wants or is he looking elsewhere will he look elsewhere oh hell I better do something quick!!
read 5LL's in about 2 hours interesting did the quiz I am a quality time followed closely by acts of service and physical touch
did H's he is physical touch and acts of service equally followed by quality time
guess I should have been washing up while sitting on his knee????
