I thought it was a trained proffessional skill. I'm amazed.
The skill of not reacting was one of my primary goals. Even in the beginning before she moved out. My family gave me lots of practice at that
Hijack anytime
Well last night she hinted that she wanted to go out. And now that I understand her I caught the hint. She himmed and hawed about where she wanted to go until I said "whydon't we go to (fancy restaurant)" and then a movie. "oh you want to go there?" with big act of surprise and smile on her face. Funny how she himmed and hawed until I figured out the right place. Quite certain she knew where she wanted to go. aaahhhh women.
So we had a wonderful 2 1/2 hour dinner and then a movie. I felt pretty darn good. My expectations don't get the best of me anymore. As a matter of fact I felt very good that I didn't have to control myself. Not needy, just enjoying the evening.
nah they don't train you to do that I think it something I just do and have always done being an artistic type I see pictures often they teach you the theoretical framework for stuff and what is evidence based but how you use it is up to the individual solution focused does get a bit more concrete by giving examples of exemptions and how to continue the session when things get stuck that is why you always need to try different people because it depends on how people use the knowledge and how they are able to get it across to clients/patients so though two psych's may have the same knowledge they have a different way of talking and of course different personalities shaped by their own upbringing no two are alike I always say if you find one and it doesn't work out go see another find the one right for you
you may have to write a book after this how to solve the problems in your relationship for males written by a male who did it
WCW have not heard from the farrier for a very long time at times am very concerned about him - I have even tried the yellow pages in the UK looking up farriers called Sean or with an S but as we don't know his last name I didn't get anywhere I also looked up newspaper reports on the Monty Roberts show just incase I could find reference to a local being in the show I don't where else to try and find him did you have any ideas???
See Xue another person we lost from the BB's Sean was a lovely man in the UK and WCW used to talk to him he seemed to be going ok for awhile and then around Christmas well nothing
don't you disappear on me as WCW says keep posting people on here need to see a happy ending story
bj - I've poked around on the website for Monty Roberts, I thought Sean said they made a video of his deal. Can't come up with anything though. Maybe an email to Monty would get a response, I don't know. ??
Xue - we sure do need to see some happy endings.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Don't leave us now, I come here to read some positive things and to know it can get better. I am so happy that things are going so great for you. It is such a wonderful thing to see.
((((hugs))) Lisa
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength,
While loving someone deeply gives you courage.
~ by Lao Tzu ~
Wait, who said I was leaving. I'm not going anywhere. I owe this place too much.
Last night I cooked a pretty fancy meal. We had a bottle of wine and settled down to watch TV. A comedy show. I leaned over to kiss her and got a real nice kiss back. I started to think things might have been going somewhere when she said "it's late gotta go to bed" gave me a kiss and got in her bed fast. A scared little rabbit ? I know I am.
BJ, couldn't tell those guys are your brothers at all. The eyes give it away just a bit.
Well I've had a low point in the rollercoaster. Not sure what caused it. I was probably a bit testy for a few days. Was just on a sexually frustrated low and it might have come across. I also started calling her honey occassionally last week. She responds to it quickly. One of the two or neither. Don't know. That''s the hard thing with to many variables. Can't always figure what causes what. Or maybe it was because she kept seeing me listening to the KLA tapes and I didn't say what they were. Or maybe it was from being with her sister for the weekend. HMMM
So I'm experimenting to see what happens. Stopped approaching her for a kiss and took my ring off. Again, more than one variable but we'll take a guess at it.
Things seem to be back on the upswing today.
Just got the KLA tapes and CYL and the sex starved marriage. Been reading and listening away. Very helpful.
One thing that really struck me (well a lot of things did) is a statement Michelle makes in The sex starved marriage. She talks about being able to spot sexually gratified couples. You can see the connection. WEEEEEEEll people do see the connection with us. Exactly like she talks about it. But there aint no sexual gratification going on.
I think this is a great case study for her. Would somebody please tell her
