now you make me wish I had a lake to walk my two dogs
but then walking the two dogs together is not fun they walk me
these BB's are happy and sad at that the moment reading about you/TD etc and seeing you both successful in different ways you in rebuilding and TD in rebuilding himself and changing his life into something great
then there are others like John who doesn't have a thread anymore but posts on others (without giving away too much about what is happening in his own stich)
and Lisa who goes forward but then becomes unsure as she has made huge changes in herself and OH&S and TJ who must be working out how to live in the 'new' lives they find themselves unwillingly in
and me - who has made a decision about h that doesn't include him in my life (but I havn't written him off - unless he has done that himself)
I am so glad that your posts these days are brief this really shows that you are making this all happen I am still cheering you on big time from the sidelines
I know you are BJ, You're quite a cheerleader.I can feel your positive energy from all the way around the world.
You've helped me so much. It's really amazing to me. Never met you but you've helped me through one of the hardest times of my life. That's just amazing and truly a testament to what a wonderful person you are. I sure do wnat to meet you one day.
and don't lose my email addy I think that day will come soon that you and I will both be moving off these BB's (for different reasons) and I do not want to lose contact with you even if it is only bi-monthly updates that way I get to give you my travel details we can always tell your wife that I contacted you about the belt/knife things and we got talking - unless we come up with something better see I assume already that when I meet you she will be with you while we have dinner somewhere and you guys show me around your town
There is no doubt she'll be with me Things are going very well. The little interactions are something I never knew we'd have. Little flirting smiles and jokes. Very good.
I sure wish your H would come to his senses. Spontaneous idiocy if you ask me. Hopefully he'll get his brain back one day soon.
I'm the worst liar in the world and my W can see right through me. So I'll have to tell her the truth, just have to figure out how to get it across. But I'm sure we'll get to a state of such intimacy soon that that won't be a problem.
I'm thinking about asking her to go away with me for a weekend soon. We're thinking about planning a trip in a couple weeks but it will be with the kids. Maybe we'll get our own room though. I've got to look at the calendar and see if we can get away to the coast.
I logged off and immediately thought heck no by the time I am coming to the States you will have been very comfortable in telling her that while you where in a state of emotional turmoil you found these BB's and a person in Australia wrote to you and cheered you on from the sidelnes - and she will be fine with that
Those are two things I am certain of, you are lovely and she will like you. No doubt of that.
I wonder if this state we seem to be in is anything close to normal. Keep cheering BJ cause this is still tough. Not tough like it was but still tough. I'd think she's just be jumping my bones at this point. But nothing. Just don't get it. But hey, we've come a long long way.
I ordered a couple more of Michelle's books today and the KLA tapes. I'm sure I'll learn more there.
If you know of any threads that seem to be like mine point me in that direction.
Thanks for stopping by. I cruised by your thread and around newcomers. Don't see many of the old faces anymore.
Yes lots of people seem to be disappearing hope that means it is good news
TD is still around and doing well - flying high TJ and OH&S seem to have disappeared Ruth comes on everyone now and then JohnB posts but doesn't appear to have a thread Kismet is around and Lisa and Nicola seems to be hanging in there
I think the boards help when people really need it but as they get to 'stand up' alone they seem to move off
I don't get on here often - too busy GALing but I check in on you TD and Faraway who seems to have gone off line for a few days
I have gotten the emails from two other people I spoke to on here Bass and Tom figured it was easier to keep in touch by email that way I wouldn't lose them all together as both are moving on with their lives and doing well as singles
I think this bit you are in would be much tougher than previously - definately on the right track and so close but just not close enough the baby steps must feel like micro ones at this time but you have come so far - it must be like climbing a mountain and you can see the top but are exhausted and time has slowed down as you inch you way up
if I see any threads like yours will point them out to you but feel that you are an exception at the moment and very unique so don't hold your breath
I will certainly come by and see you soon. Or shoot you an e-mail.
BJ,
Yes it's amazing how everyone seemed to fade out all at the same time. Or maybe it just seemed so. Yes I think either way it is a good thing. Your right, people are standing on their own two feet. Not being dependent on these boards shows growth. I mostly come here out of gratitude. Although I don't have much time to look around I do just a little bit now and then to look for familiar faces.
Your analogy is perfect and I love how you give out those little analogies. Takes a persons mind off of worrying about it. My mind just goes to the analogy rather than looking for alternative scenarios. Great technique
It's amazing how many times I was so exhausted I was ready to give up. Didn't think I had it in me to keep trying. But we don't really know what we have in us until we try it out huh.
I somehow knew I was unique. As a matter of fact I've gone to look a few times but gave up before I got started because I was quite certain I wouldn't find it. That's me, gotta be unique. GGGGRRRRR.
I had to laugh yesterday. I came into the room and my wife was teaching. Her sister was on the phone. My wife snapped at me. No idea why, very unusual. We had a few stressful situations to deal with and that was probably on her mind or something, whatever. Anyway, I was holding the phone out to at the time with her sister on the other end. So I take over her lesson and when she comes back from the phone call she was sweet as pie. Sweet as pie the rest of the day as a matter of fact. I had to laugh because her sister is the sort to say WTF you talking like that for. And my wife has a whole lot of respect for that sister. I got a kick out of it.
OK well I'll just hang out here just under the peak until I get my breath. So I can do some more climbing.
Have a great day the both of you. Or "Make a great day"
I guess I must do analogies unconsciously I honestly just get pictures in my head I am so glad it helps will have to hone that skill for the professional world
am so glad you are doing well I think a big thing is that when your wife sometimes 'snarls' you no longer think you it must be you or something you did or didn't do that is a pretty good thing to master if you ask me
I can just see you under the ledge getting your breath back and organising the 'new' climbing gear you need for this next bit (there I go again)
