now that is a question is it not - how does someone realise that you can be strong and independent within a marriage
so many people think marriage is two halves becoming one but in reality it is two full independent people learning to bend and flex and accomodate the difficulties of living together - while remaining individuals and true to themselves
I am realising lately that this living alone is a good thing no one to consult on anything just do what I want when I want but I also am beginning to realise that living with someone is much more difficult and causes me to be much independent and strong so I don't lose my self within the relationship
I think it takes an extremely strong independent confident person to make a marriage work - someone who doesn't lose themselves in the middle of it all - someone who has the ability to be themself but consider others and how they feel
this living alone is great but it makes me realise that I can very easily become selfish and have an attitude of my way or the high way
I really have no idea what ideas are out there that will allow you to help her see that within the marriage she needs to be even stronger and more confident in herself confident that you can see the real her - the bad day her and the her who sometimes struggles and then asks for help
good luck you are doing so well february was a good month for you bj
