Well not officially. She has moved a few necessities in here and there. Hasn't stayed at the house on the hill since Feb 7. Has made a few comments about "since she came back". But her things remain packed in a bag or stored somewhere else rather than our bedroom.
We have been very busy and tired. We lost a key employee and have had to make up for it. Yet we still make sure to spend a great deal of quality time together.
Last night we went to dinner and a movie. A two hour dinner, had a great time.
But she still sleeps on the couch.
There is no conflict, there is much realization between us of how much we have both grown. We are definetely the two of us against the world again.
My anxieties and expectations are nearly nil. They are not getting in the way like they were.
Yet we seem to be in this "best friends" mode.
It is still partially about her becoming a strong independent woman. There have been a few comments about a few women around us going through D and latching onto a man immediatly. She always says with disgust that these women think they cannot support themselves and live without a man. She considers it a great weakness.
So she prizes strength and independence. I just have to get her to realize that marriage is highly conducive to that. I support her in the things she wants to do to be indpendent.
We have a good relationship now. But I think this lingering thought that strong independent women are single must change. Marriage produces strong and independent. I know this. But how to get it across
