Cobra,

What were doing in a plce like that? Well, we are grown up and entitled to go out and do things from time to time. 90% of our time is always family time. But on the occasion we do get a babysitter (grandma) and we go out to dinner or bolwing or a concert maybe. This time we hadn't been out in like 5 months so went to hear a band at local club. I guess we felt like doing something different. Even though both of us weren't drinking we did have fun.

I guess when I say felt like on the verge of an affair...is because I didn't like the way it felt when someone would compliment me. I felt saddened and good at the same time. I just missed being wanted as a woman so badly that I was really getting scared of how my morals would stand if I kept living this way day in and day out. Do I still have a male friend, yes. Do I see him every day or even every week. Nope. Is husband mad about this.We actually talked about it and no he wasn't mad. He knows undoubtedly that I am not attracted to this male friend. However he did say he wouldn't feel comfortable if I was to talk to this other man about our problems and such. I agreed it would be wrong to do this and would respect his wishes. My husband is one that believes the opposite sex can be great friends.

What I am confused about is why a man would clearly state that he doesn't feel sexual towards me at all. That it has just died for him. That he feels we are done and doesn't think we can rebuild and then say very hurtful things in a fight. Then a few weeks later be all over me and start acting lovey dovey. While I was working he never stated he disliked my job. But he seems very happy about me being out of there.