Let’s start with (((((Gwen))))))!!! How are you doing? Dealing with depression can be a tough one. I’ve been on both sides of that fence, I’ve dealt with a depressed S and gone through depression myself. Nevanna has a good point, you can’t make him do anything about it, I know that from my own experience, I was one of those tough guys that didn’t believe in depression, I always figured people with depression were weak minded people that just needed a kick in the a$$. Little did I know what depression was or how powerful it can be, it almost killed me. But in the back of my mind I knew that supposedly there was help for depression. Well I let it get totally out of control and it wasn’t until the day that I decided I couldn’t stand to live any longer that I finally sought help. That wasn’t easy for a “tough guy” like me but given my other option at the time it seemed like a good choice and I was finally willing to try anything.
The point I am trying to make is just make sure that your H knows that there is help out there. Had I not known that there was help available… well I don’t want to go there.
Other than that I wouldn’t give him any attention when the “death” talk starts. I don’t see this as a cry for help but rather just looking for some “poor me” attention. My suggestion is to tell him that you don’t want to hear all his complaining if he isn’t going to do anything to help himself, and then follow through.
Stay strong and continue to take care of yourself, you have come so far, you don’t want to go backward
ALL
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