I agree, well said, GH.

I guess knowing my SO as I do, he WILL talk to me, when he's ready. I think. LMAO! That's why I wait....and wait......and wait......

Patience, hmmm, between my kids and my R problems, lol, I've really learned the true definition. Putting it into practice, well that is another story.

I also know as I go dimmer, which is what I truly feel I need to do, I believe he will start to question me. Questions which I usually never know how to answer. I always have to remember, while this seems interminably looonnnggg to me - this situation, him being moved out, is still relatively new. So while it's a little old to me, it's new to him. Have to keep that in mind, as well. I also keep in mind that "I" pushed him into moving out. Not the other way around. While it was ultimately his decision to do the deed, I wonder if he isn't waiting for me to "DO" something - now there's a thought! LOL

We always want that which we cannot have. Hoping this works in my favor, lol. And with that in mind, I will take the next steps in lowering the wattage of my bulb. Just not sure what they are. Besides the obvious of limiting the contact between us (all forms, texts, email, phone). He's also the kind that may not *get* what I'm doing without explicitly being told. Such as "Back off until you're ready to re-commit". That has it's upside as well. No beating around the bush. And, to be honest, it's probably the direction I will go. I just don't want to want to muck up the "talk".