Just as I was about to get into a long, drawn out post, I decide to check the good old Cainercast, lol:
Quote: "All the best processes take time. When we try to push everything forward too fast, we deprive ourselves of the valuable chance to nurture a wise investment or tend a delicate plant. You're keen now, to bring closure to a matter that is uncertain and unsettled. You want it resolved so you can move on. Do what you have to in order to feel comfortable but don't close doors or rule out options that can be left, if not entirely open, at least a little bit 'ajar'. Over the next few weeks and months, some situation may become very different. "
Hmmmm..... Good advice for everyone....not just us Cap's!
RB, I have a question - or anyone, actually. Maybe I'm just thick-headed, but how am I too emotionally dependent on him? I've tried to back off from that. Is there something you see that maybe I'm missing, or should do differently? Maybe my definition of emotionally dependent is different than yours?
Chrissy, thanks. No - I haven't sat down and talked with him. Whenever I think about it, and run a scenario thru my mind, I can't envision myself saying things that don't sound right. Everything sounds pushy, clingy, pressuring, anything but detached and loving. Know what I mean? I think of it along the lines of he "knows" what I want - why bring it up and push him away further if he's not ready.
SO was not like "this" while he was here. I probably won't do a good job of getting it into words. Yet from when I used to snoop, the type's of things he's sending now to ME, and the amount of contact; the little steps towards 'sharing' more with me - are getting to the way they were when he used to send them to OW when he 1st started with her. So I guess that's in the back of my mind. I 'sense" a change in his demeanor towards me. And it makes me hesitant to upset the apple cart at this time. Maybe that will just prolong his indecision - I don't know. And the decision is MINE to make about what to do next, and I know that.
