Quote: I know he's still up on the fence - the question is, how much longer can I stay in this holding pattern. On one hand, if the contact is positive, heading towards more closeness, I don't want to shut him out. Then on the other hand - is it benefiting anything? I have to think about it some more.
Ah, we are at the same place, eh? You know I am going through the same exact thing in terms of to "contact" or not to. Of course, my W is still in the house, but the confusion is the same.
Also, in terms of him telling you to call whenever, my W has said those kinds of things too. I wouldn't worry about whether he said that because he perceived you as needing reassurance. He may just as well have been looking for an opportunity to tell you that and you gave it to him. Remember, they don't communicate that well so...
The ultimate thing to realize is that you are just as likely to be wrong about ANYTHING you speculate about ("I didn't call him because I thought he was with the OM) and thus, speculation is merely a hobby, but not truly a productive one at this point. You KNOW very little, so stop trying to live based on what you know.
Anyway, like I said about my sitch, these are better days and these are good problems to have I guess. Don't dwell TOO much on this stuff. Keep the "you" work up and don't become consumed once again by the R stuff.
