Question for you NM; in the past, have you been supportive and given him the impression that you liked his career choice? I ask this because my W has been and done both of those. It's what makes it confusing for me when she is not supportive of the kind of schedule I keep. To me, the career and schedule are one in the same. I don't like it, but both my W and I knew this going in. The key here is to make sure, like you suspect your H could be inclined to do, that you (and I mean HE) make concessions to family life whenever possible. He needs to make sure he's REALLY only doing what he HAS to do to advance his career and make money. I know that in his business, like mine, there are gigs that come up that maybe don't pay too well, but are fun as hell. Those are the ones I have cut out in favor of my family. Again, luckily for me, I started doing that before all this. To continue it is easy for me.
So, I am just pointing out a way where you and your H could be on different pages (well, there are many, aren't there) and supporting your idea that you could be wrong. You assume he only wants to see his kids when his schedule allows for it and he may want to see them a lot more but doesn't see his schedule as flexible in any way. There is surely room for discussion between you. Food for thought.
