You Get What You Settle For

[RBinBR]

NM, I'm with you on the "no kids around OW" plan. I told my W that she could have our D over whenever OM isn't there, but he hasn't had anywhere to go, so she hasn't had D over and that has made her depressed.

Tonight is the first night that D has spent with her in the six weeks she's had the apartment, since OM is out of town for a few days.

Our D, who is only 4, called W on a lot of things tonight. For example, "Whose toothbrush is this, mommy?" "Where is Daddy going to sleep?" "I want Daddy to spend the night, too."

I think having D over is going to remind her how much she has given up and will be very good at making her feel guilty.

So, personally, if he promises to keep OW away from your kids, I think you ought to consider it. I think they will only make him feel guilty, and having them over will be very bittersweet to him.