Can you tell COMMUNICATION is our biggest problem???
I think both of us are so afraid of saying what we really think or feel. And it's been this way for a while.
And right now, I don't want anything negative associated with ME. LOL Let's leave that to the OW to take care of all by herself.
I want all exchanges and interactions between him & I to be good, fun, happy ones. Because as you said, Oldtimer, we are NOT in a committed R anymore. And until (or IF) we ever are again, things will need to be different.
So, I'm hoping that by doing the things that I can do differently NOW, break the BAD communication cycles about "little" things now....it will help in the long run.
And, gosh - if I'm doing it wrong - please tell me. I'm so dense & have tunnel vision sometimes. I don't always come up with the most creative of solutions.
