A normal answer to him (the old, negative me) would have answered along the lines of: "Why, what's wrong? How come your day isn't so good?" - trying to fish for something from him.
Or, if I was in a really bad mood: "Sorry you're having a bad day but this is what you chose." Or "I'm having a bad day too. This sucks, I miss you" - or some other kind of sad-sack exchange.
I'm trying to do things different, I guess.
For instance, we have broadband, so I usually sign on & just leave the computer on. I don't know why - because I can, I guess. When he was really busy with work, email/IM was sometimes our only communication - that probably has something to do with it. These days, I haven't been staying online - I sign off. I haven't been answering his emails right away; nor do I even read them right away. I actually found a way to forward them to myself so he can't see that I read them and can think about whatever it is he said before he knows that I read it.
Just a little while ago, he emailed me and then IM'd me....with no response from me because I was in the kitchen no where near the computer. So, when he got no response from me, he called - telling me he IM'd & emailed. WTH?? LOL BTW - the email was an apology for him acting badly yesterday. Go figure.
I'm not sure about these interactions, either, OT. Whether they are good or bad. I DO try to break the patterns....but like I said, he'll take it upon himself to call if he wants to. At 8 AM, he KNOWS I'm home - where else would I be? I have tried telling him to lay off - that seems to make him do it more. So working with what I have, I'm trying to do it differently - do ANYTHING differently just to get out of the old, comfortable rut that we've been stuck in.
Still waiting for the results to come back on my progress.
