Thanks, Oldtimer....again...keeping me on the straight & narrow!
Quote: I'm not real sure what was going on here: "I spouted off at the mouth that by me sleeping with him, it made a mockery out of the whole reason why he moved out."
Sounds like you were talking out of hurt OR fishing for repentence on his part. Whatever. I would caution you though NOT TO BACK HIM INTO A CORNER. Don't make it the case that by trying to come back to you he is a spineless hypocrite, for instance.... Don't put up an electric fence if you are trying to leave the door open...
Yes, I guess I was talking out of hurt. Or, more likely - confusion. Or anger. He said that "I was taking away the only good thing he had left in his life." The only thing he could do that made us both happy and now I was taking that away from him and he didn't understand why. Now, back when he started w/ OW, I got the whole ILYBNILWY speech. That always repeats in my mind when he says this stuff to me....Like I'm OK to sleep with....but not OK to have the rest of a R with. I have extreme difficulty getting past that....still.
I've been good with not getting reactive. I did good today, even thru all this. But he pouted, carried on, then got mad & silent. I felt like he was trying to pressure me, wasn't respecting me, and was only doing it to get his rocks off. Not because he gave a damn about me. I didn't like feeling that way.
So - you're right. I reacted out of hurt. And I suppose I still do a lot of "fishing". I need to stop that.
