NM: I think you are doing it all correctly. It seems as if your H is feeling what he is losing/has lost. All the contact to you is a good sign I think...
Keep being as strong as you are!! You are doing a great job!!!
Maybe he sees that OW is an as*... And you have every right to LOL about her being pissed that night. What man wants a pissy woman... He may be seeing her in a whole new light -- So heck yeah LOL sister!!! Jokes on her stupid as*!!!!!
Have a great night - good luck with the jobhunt!!!