Ellie, it had nothing to do with a popularity contest. If RC wanted to know what I meant, she could have asked. She, like others, have just assumed. Should I have explained when I wrote it? Perhaps. I know full well that there are plenty of people reading who know exactly what was meant.

You say you are not looking for a conflict but when you jump into a thread and start defending, a thread often takes on a playground brawl mentality. I think, if you have followed RC, you are fully aware that she can fight her own battles.

I continue to post to her periodically because as has been mentioned, I see something eerily familiar in her sitch. Have you considered that perhaps what I have to say actually might hold some water? Don't assume that I am ganging up on her. That could not be further from the truth.

Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}