If you really love him, stick to the counseling and dont give up on him. We men can be thick skulled, slow learners sometimes, but when we finally get it, it usually sticks. Agreeing to talk openly with a counselor is a major indicator he is willing to learn in my opinion. Stick to your guns, and try to find out for yourself what you will comprimise on, and what you won't. he will have to learn to do the same, and hopeyfully you guys can reach a point where you can have a loving relationship. Read everything you can, listen to all opinions, then formulate your own. No one person's opinion can be right for you all the time.
My wife gave up on me before I figured it out, and now all I want is that time back to try again. I learned just a little too late. Don't quit until you're really ready.
