hopingformiracles,I know what you are feeling I don't even talk to H anymore well until today he called and said he would pick up S at 6:00 or so and that he will have him all weekend and I asked if he got the paper from friend of the court and he said no I got mine yesterday I guess it's to dertermine child support payments amount. I wish it had a better outcome but he is so nasty and evil right now that I can't even handle being around him. was you H like that before the D or has he always been nice and how long did it take for you H to come around and talk more like friends instead of enimies.I wish we could be friends in the end but I'm not sure that will happen? I'm really sad over all this stuff.thanks Joa.