Thanks guys. It's interesting how the same email can be interpreted differently by different people. I was ticked off by his cheapness (I mean, after what he did to me especially those nasty things during the divorce process, he can't even take me out, that really turned me off), but yes, we have to start somewhere and the chicken and salad dinner at home it is then for us...

I replied to him by simply saying "okay, XXX can take care of S3 this Friday. I will go pick him up after dinner".

I wanted to keep it light but at the same time I wanted to imply that I am not planning on spending the entire night with H by saying that I need to go pick up S3. Come'on, H cannot expect me to sleep with him after his casual suggestions of the "noodles (what he suggested yesterday)" dinner and eating at home on Friday! If I left my family when my spouse and baby were crying, and decided to come home nearly a year later for my own selfish reasons, I won't be so casual about our M while expecting the partner to have sex with me (well if I were the guy, that is - I guess if I offer sex even if H was mad at me, he would have accepted the offer )

This is the guy who initially said to me that he never loved me but lusted me - he should not be thinking of having sex!!!

My friend is worried but I do not think H would FORCE me to do anything - well I hope not..., after all, he hasn't had sex for a long time. I will have my cell phone in my pocket in case..., no just kidding, I don't think he will be THAT bad.

Actually, it might be a good thing that H has acted the way he did. I am not excited about Friday night. Like I said, I am actually turned off, so I know I will not easily give him the impression that I will be welcoming him back with open arms.