UPDATE:

I ended up sending the letter I wrote, also b/c I thought about it again and felt that if I just send the shorter version, H will never get my "point" of not wanting S3 around and that it is not like I am 100% open to his idea of reconciliation YET. I thought if I just provide the alternative date, he would just pop over. He has never been good at "getting" someone's points unless they are clearly laid out in front of him...

Anyway, I sent the email this morning. An hour later (okay, so he is not acting like he is in such a rush anymore), he sent me this email back:
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I agree - we should start slowly.....Do you think XXX (our friend) can pick S3 up Friday so we can have dinner at the house? I have chicken breast and bread crumbs if you can supply the salad...

H
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Now, the impression I got from this? BAD. He does not even want to go out? This definitely makes me think that he is having a money issue. He is too cheap to take me out to the dinner? If I can supply the salad??? Whaaa??

Or am I being unreasonable to feel this way? Do many WHs act like this?

I am already being discouraged about us trying...., both of us need to adjust our expectations BIG TIME...

I know, expecting him to show tears in front of me apologizing for what he did to me and DS3 and giving me a bouquet of flowers is unfortunately unrealistic and is something that happens only in the movie, but still.....