I think you might be worrying too much. If he is actually serious about trying again, making him wait, taking it slow, being cautious, aren't going to kill your chances. For once, you have the power in this. He's weaving all kinds of images of you with a bf and he doesn't like it. I think that is his "hurry". He wants you swearing off from the OM ASAP. It's okay to get some one on one time. Don't stress conflicting advice...whatever you choose to do will likely be fine (that's contigent on him actually being committed to trying again). I might not have specified on my thread, but when XW said she wanted to try again, I didn't just jump at the chance and she made all the effort. She did the calling, the talking about the future, and the coming over. What I meant by "going with the flow" is just to let him do the work since he's the one suggesting trying again. You just be cautiously open to the idea. And just so you know...I did tell her straight out what I felt my problems with this would be (ie I don't know if I can trust you, I'm not sure you are committed to this course, etc). You can be brutally honest because if he wants you he can't just expect you welcoming him with open arms. I think that your e-mail points that out quite nicely.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
If he is actually serious about trying again, making him wait, taking it slow, being cautious, aren't going to kill your chances. For once, you have the power in this. He's weaving all kinds of images of you with a bf and he doesn't like it. I think that is his "hurry". He wants you swearing off from the OM ASAP. It's okay to get some one on one time. Don't stress conflicting advice...whatever you choose to do will likely be fine (that's contigent on him actually being committed to trying again). I might not have specified on my thread, but when XW said she wanted to try again, I didn't just jump at the chance and she made all the effort. She did the calling, the talking about the future, and the coming over. What I meant by "going with the flow" is just to let him do the work since he's the one suggesting trying again. You just be cautiously open to the idea. And just so you know...I did tell her straight out what I felt my problems with this would be (ie I don't know if I can trust you, I'm not sure you are committed to this course, etc). You can be brutally honest because if he wants you he can't just expect you welcoming him with open arms. I think that your e-mail points that out quite nicely. 
