You know Hoping, I read your last two posts and they have gotton me thinking. I am just putting it out there so digest it and throw it back up if you like.
Who says that the next time you speak to husband you have to decide on everything right now and here? Why not just spend time with him and enjoy it. Forget about all the problems for now--they will be waiting. Just have fun and savor the good times. I see how you don't want to get son hurt again, but honestly, how much could the three of you being together hurt things. Maybe you are right. I don't have kids and don't understand things from your perspective. You know your son's reactions better than mine. Maybe it is better to make the next visit with him just the two of you, but I still think it should be light with no relationship talk just for now. Let ex know this too. Just say to him, let's have fun for now. Maybe in the future we can talk about working on our marriage. See how he reacts to this.
You know, men do think way differently than women. When I read what your H wrote last it reminded me of my own ex. When our divorce was first filed, ex invited me over to spend the evening with him. He was starting to change his mind, but I didn't realize this and brought him back to his initial to desire to divorce.
He just wanted to eat and watch TV together. My world was falling apart though and I couldn't not talk about the relationship. I didn't realize ex's world was also in shatters and for the moment he just wanted to forget about the problems and enjoy the evening. I didn't realize what a golden opportunity this could have been back then. I wish I would have done differently way back then. Things might be different for me today.
This would also help you determine if he is in a rush to get back with you because of his own personal financial situation.
