H called 9 times yesterday and 3 times this morning. I only answered two of them. This morning when he called, I answered, and he asked
H: "how is everything?"
M: "oh, fine"
H: "oh, okay, I am just calling to see if everything is fine. As long you are fine, that's good (??? I am not dying!!!)."
M: "yea, I am good"
H: "...well, 'cause I know you are probably in a shock (well... HELLO?? till recently you were so mean and jerk about the whole D thing!!! Yes, I am a bit confused!), so I want to make sure you are okay"
M: "I'm fine"
H: "okay"
M: "well, have a good day okay"
H: "yup'

Those frequent phone calls make me nervous. Does he have a deadline or something?? Does he want to reconcile b/c (1) his apartment lease is ending and he does not want to renew it b/c he is having financial problems; (2) he is losing his job (again) and needs to find a rent-free place; (3) he lost a grip on his financial issues and in a deep trouble and needs my financial help; (4) tax related reasons; (5) he cannot pay for his attny anymore; (6) he realized that once D is finalized, he would have to pay more than he has been giving us every month for the next 15 years.

I hate to think like this, but H has "used" me financially before, so these phone calls do make me very nervous as if he is just doing this for his own convenience. Last year, he said "let's stay together for the sake of S3", b/c he was losing his job and had no other place to go. Soon as he found a job, he was again looking for an apartment. So I got mad and kicked him out. Then he came back the next day and said "okay, no more BS, let's give this a serious try", and suggested that we go to Hawaii. I paid for everything and soon as we came back, he moved out.

So I do have a very good reason not to trust his motives. Still, I do not want to "decide" that he is trying to use me again. Of course I want to believe this time is different, but how do I find that out?

I want to reply to his email he sent me yesterday. Here is how I am thinking of responding to his email.
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H,

Thank you for your email and phone calls. I have given this a lot of thought, but feel I still need some time to think it through.

There are a few things I need to know: what made you change your mind and what do you feel is needed to rebuild our trust and M? Do you have any plans for this to be achieved?

If you would like to discuss this in person, we can meet for dinner sometime, but I believe it is better if S3 is not there.

Have a good day,
Hoping

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Those who have experienced in recovery or false recovery in M, I greatly appreciate if you could give me some feedback on my email. THANKS!!!!!!!!