Thanks, Just. I was hoping to get your feedback on this as well, to get a male perspective and also because I know your xW came back and you guys are working to reconcile.
I thought the day like this would make me soooooooooooo happy before. It's strange, but I was very calm the whole time he was talking. I was happy, yes, but not THAT happy. There was no "YES!!!" moment. It was a calm, "oh, wow, he actually said it..." kind of realization.
I realize that there are a lot of issues still need to be worked out. I need to have a concrete "plan" for this recovery, and H needs to have his own as well.
First of all, I really need to know what made him want to give us another try. Is it one of those "conveniences" he felt? He is just so lonely that he felt being with someone is better than beling alone?
He used S3 as one of the primary reasons, but that's strange too. S3 was always there and should have been a big factor in H's decision making process. H was okay leaving the screaming child crying for his father behind, so even though I do appreciate that now it seems H is getting some of the normal feeling back, S3 cannot be the sole reason for H to reconsider.
So I do want to know what has happened to make him change his mind. If I cannot even ask these questions, our M will not going to work anyway, so I want to be honest with him and hopefully he will be the same this time.
I am thinking of replying to H's email tomorrow, and want to include the questions below: (1) why he is changing his mind now; (2) what he thinks needs to be done in order to work on our M; (3) if he is 100% committed to our M
He called at home 3 times and my cell 5 times today. He gives an impression that he has a deadline or something! Is he saying he wants to give it another try because he has to renew his apartment lease and he has no money?? Is he losing his job?? Tax reasons??
It's sad that I have to think like this, but he fooled me several times, so I really need to be cautious now!
