Quote: What is the best way to answer, letting him know that my door is open but we really need to "work" on our M? I do not want to make it sound like I lay down "conditions", but I do want us to go to MC and church together, for example.
How about asking him what he thinks needs to happen to make things work? This would probably be a 180--wouldn't it? Let him answer and then tell him you will think about it. See what he says and what his ideas are. See if they match what you want and need.
Again, I think you need professional advice on how to say what your expectations are without sounding like you are laying down the law. You want this new relationship to be different than the old one. In my old relationship, I would "lay down the law". That just doesn't work with ex. Again, I need to probably just not give advice. I am not familar with this sort of thing. I am no marriage counselor that is for sure.
