My update.

Soon will be 6 months since I found out about my WAW.
She is still seeing OM - as often as she can. Says she is not seeing him and is trying to "figure" this out. She still lives at home with the children and me. He only lives a few blocks away - so she sneaks out frequently - on "errends" to visit the OM.

I really don't see the point of waiting any longer for giving her an ultimatum - such as "you have 2 weeks" to decide if you want a divorce or you will stop seeing him".

I know that does not sound like DB course of action - but really - 6 months of this and my patience is ending soon.

She says she still loves me - but of course not "in love" with me. She says she is "in love" with OM. I think she feel guilty of the impact of a D on the kids (duh!).

I can't fake it with her any longer.


I am open to suggestions.