Thanks for the encouragement. My local counselor (not SBT Trained) suggested I seek clarification from my WAW as to where our relationship is etc. I know that is contrary to the DB Process but it is tempting.
Monday I have my 2nd DB call with Dottie. I know she will ask if I have kept the R out of my initiated conversations with my WAW. I have done pretty well overall - but have brought it up on a couple of occasions (like when I knew she saw OM). This confrontation began and ended the same as others. She says 1. if I accuse her of seeing him - she threatens to leave 2. she says I will never trust her again - based on my current behavior 3. The changes I have made in myself are not permenant - I am only being extra nice and helpful to win her back.
On number 1 - before too long I may take her up on this. On number 2 - she can't seem to understand that the trust thing is pretty much impossible to start if she has not told me it is over with the OM. For number 3 - I know I am a different person since this has happened.
Basically, my WAW says she is confused and does not know what to do. I am hanging on to the thought that one day she will come to me with some good news that she wants only me. I hope it comes before I kick her out.
