Thanks for replying. I didn't think it was the weight either because I was a big woman when he met me, so a few more pounds here and there shouldn't be that much of a big diff.
@Stigmata: I think most of my lingering thoughts about him being gay or bi stem mostly from mannerisms (he can be a little dramatic at times) and sexual frustration, "If he won't have sex with me, maybe he's gay/interested in other men." I don't really know, and I don't think it'd be a good idea for me to come out and ask. I know it would truly hurt his feelings, and our sex life would probably never recover.
He did not have an issue with ED before, so I guess the diabetes is creeping up on him or maybe since I received my Essure implants, and after my hysterosalpingogram, I have been cleared to have sex without protection. I think after so many years of using condoms, he might still afraid that there is a chance I could get pregnant. I have discussed it with him and his doctor, and she said the ED is more than likely due to the diabetes, too, but I truly also believe it's psychological. He also went to a urologist who gave him samples of Viagra, but he doesn't feel comfortable taking it, and neither did I at first, but I thought, well, he could at least take half a pill and see how it goes, but I don't know if he'll do that.
He and I were talking a few days ago, and I asked him if he was happy with me and this marriage mostly because I didn't want to end up being one of the women unknowingly married to a gay guy who comes out 15 years later or end up in divorce before I know it. He said he was happy with the marriage, but that we needed to work on the sex/intimacy issue. But, no plans of course, were made to hop on the sex bandwagon right away. He sometimes tends to want to wait until we're on vacation to have sex, but that's not the way I work. We've discussed the sex thing over and over and over again, and still no solution. The last time we had successful sex was a year ago.
I asked him if he wanted to get romantic last Friday or Saturday night, and he said, "We can do that," but he wasn't too enthusiastic about it, and of course, nothing happened. Like I wrote before, we cuddle, kiss and show lots of affection, but no sex.
