I still am worried he may be gay or bi and just repressing his desires and has been using me as a beard for the past 5 years.

- Whoa VLM. Where did this come from? Hm. Can't tell for sure if you were sincere or joking. If sincere, get to the bottom of this.

Are you starting to look back over the 5 years and coloring him with this? "I am still worried..."? If it's in your head and now you've verbalized it your uncon/subcon. must be picking up on something , whether true or false or you never would have said it. Effeminate mannerisms? Looking too long at other Ms?

Plus, if this is in the back of your mind his own uncon/subcon is going to pick up on your body language/vibe and you both won't even know it consciously. Lingering "wonder if he's gay" thoughts does not give off the communication coding to an M that she's hot for him and vice versa.

If it's all a big joke then nevermind. Ugh.

But I would say unless you have more proof, like another man's phone number from a gay bar matchbook cover or something then probably best to not give breath to these kinds of doubts.

Has he tried supplements for his ED? L Argenine works...taken in the a.m. and then again just before sex.

And, no, it's not your weight. It's his head/libido that has the issue.

-Stigmata-


The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge;
the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.

-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-

...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ

-Stigmata-