Hello, everyone. I didn't want to hijack GreenEyedLass' thread, so I decided to start this one. I got this quote from the thread and wanted to comment about it regarding my situation. (I posted in "The Sex-Starved Wife" thread, so you can get an eyeful of my situation there).
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Quote: Yes, but the fact is you still DO-- even with a woman who treats you like cr@p... how do you explain that when my bf DOESN'T want to even with a woman who treats him like a king?
Yes, but your bf is probably happier to be in a relationship with you than HD is to be married to his wife. People generally want to be in relationships with people who are generally nice to them but they don't generally want to f*ck people because they are nice. Having sex with his W is win-win situation ego-wise for HD and a lose-lose situation for your bf ego-wise at the moment. Of course, being b*tchy isn't really a solution to your problem because though it might make your bf want to f*ck you in defense of his ego, it would also make him not want to be in a relationship with you.
Yes, but your bf is probably happier to be in a relationship with you than HD is to be married to his wife. People generally want to be in relationships with people who are generally nice to them but they don't generally want to f*ck people because they are nice. Having sex with his W is win-win situation ego-wise for HD and a lose-lose situation for your bf ego-wise at the moment. Of course, being b*tchy isn't really a solution to your problem because though it might make your bf want to f*ck you in defense of his ego, it would also make him not want to be in a relationship with you.
I think that is part of what has happened in my marriage. I put on quite a lot of weight between 2003 and 2006, and my husband says he is turned off a bit, but that he is attracted to other qualities of me and he like that I treat him nice, but we haven't had any real sex in about a year. He also has ED, but like the above post reads, that's not necessarily an excuse not to have some other type of sexual contact. I can't lose all the weight I gained overnight, nor do I expect him to be attracted to me with the extra pounds, but still, I am hoping something will change soon.
