I like the term situationally LD, HD, ND etc. It's why I HATE this pigeon-holing with labels. It's a fluid state most times.
Barring any kind of serious physiological or emotional imbalance or pain...and if it was once there in full blossom...I firmly believe a normal SL can be had/regained.
I think a lot of it for the LD F is not looking at herself as a vibrant sexy woman. Maybe it's poor body image. Insecurities over weight...hips...thighs...sagging frontal areas etc. Or feeling discontent otherwise. Goals. Objectives. Pursuits to make her happy/content/actualized...as the 2 songs go: "Feel Like a Natural Woman" and "...blah blah blah Hear Me Roar."
Or, in your case, resentment from feeling steamrolled by an M who doesn't seem truly interested in you as an complex woman with equally important needs and wants.
It seems maybe you attract "users." They see you are a giver and they take and take and take. More they take the more you give to try and get their attention and make them happy...which, of course, seems like they are never happy nor get enough of something or other from you.
Goes back to your boundaries. Bullies and nerds (no, you're not a nerd btw).
The high school star quarterback football stud and the freshman girl with braces who is madly in love with him.
She follows him around, carries his books or gets inside info on the really hot cheerleader the quarterback really wants.
He doesn't respect nerd girl. Uses her. She's invisible. Walks all over her because she won't put her foot down over his poor treatment.
Same thing with guys, guys. If you're a pimply high water pants wearing nerd who sucks up shamelessly to the hot cheerleader and follow her around like a puppy dog with AOS, WOA etc. she won't have a shred of respect for you.
She wants cocky quarterback guy who would be happy to have her but is fine if he doesn't because he'll just go get the head cheerleader from his rival school. He knows that going in and that kind of confidence is an F magnet. She will fight for his attention. They all will fight for his attention KWIS?
Stop being nerds. Be the hot head cheerleader; cocky stud quarterbacks in your lives. And looks is only a small part. A person who is totally confident in what they want from life radiates charisma. May still feel insecure inside but as long as you project this others will perceive it as such.
Again, perception is 9-10ths of the law of attraction.
yes, I just made that one up; so don't screw me out of my royalty checks when you use it. LOL.
Glad I could amuse you with my now "Saved by the Bell" illustration. sheeesh, when will I stop? LOL.
-Stigmata-
PS. Landica. I haven't forgotten the marble book end H threat. I tend to black out with rage when I see Ms act like this. May comment on it in future but don't want to kill the fuzzy nostalgic high school buzz I've now got going on for myself...
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
You and I really need to get together and discuss multiple-Os and useless men - LOL.
And I totally agree with you that having multiple-Os is NOT what sex is about. That part is easy. In fact if I am ML with H and we are having a bad time (out of bed) I can O in about 10 seconds, roll over and go to sleep. Sorry guys you don't have the monopoly on that one! I do envy you the just sit there in class having them tho - can't do that one. It happened ONE time when I was walking down the street and a certain guy I fancied at the time sprung to mind and OOOPS there it went. I also O in my dreams sometimes. So you are FAR from weird it seems.
OK so you attract users (same here). Do you think you give out a strong/nurturer type image that attracts them and then don't draw the lines in the right places when they start using you? I get the feeling this is what I do. I attract waifs and strays - my mother told me that when I was a little girl at school - because I would always wind up being friends with some poor lost soul no-one else would talk to. I just would feel sorry for them. I am also a person that tends to see the good in people and I see that in you too Landica, so the whole world can be telling me what a jerk someone is and I'm saying *but he's a great cook* or some such.
Anyway, just sharing, so you know you aren't the only multi-orgasimic idiot out there.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
